M & H Sitting In A Tree...

... K-I-S-S-I-N-G. First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes baby in the baby carriage! Or something like that.

I was sitting at work the other day, and this guy comes in. He is probably in his mid 30's, has a toddler girl, and is an arrogant ass, in my opionion. I am just finishing up business with him, and he asks me a harmless question. What are your plans for this summer? There is nothing wrong this question, and is probably a question a lot of people are asking, and answering, as the weather is getting warmer and summer is nearing. So I answered without a second thought.

Me: Oh, just trying to get a yard put into our new house since it was just built. And planning our wedding.

Him: So, wait. You own a house together and then are getting married?

Me: (A little confused) Yeas...

Him: (Accusingly) Oh, let me guess. You have kids too.

Me: (Very pissed) Yes, actually we do (even though technically he is my kid). A 2 1/2-year-old. (I said this VERY matter-of-factly).

Him: (Makes a weird, snorting noise, rolls his eyes, and walks off)

Me: Go F- yourself! (No, I didn't really say that, but I wanted to!)

Times have changed. We no longer live in a era where everyone marries their high school sweetheart, right out of high school, has a son, then a daughter, and the wife stays home and keeps care of the kids, cooks, cleans, and has dinner on the table for when the husband walks through the front door at 5 o'clock sharp.

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While that might still be the case in some peoples lives today, it most certainly is NOT my situation. And I'm not ashamed of it at all.

I went away for my first year of college. When I came back, I started dating a boy. Things were OK, but then I got pregnant. He proposed (although neither of us wanted to get married) and I said yes. We were trying to make things "right". But, it wasn't what we wanted, and we couldn't pretend, so we broke it off, even before the baby was born. When our son was 6 days old, he told me to move out. Things were on and off and finally I had enough and moved on.

In steps MS. The most wonderful man you will ever meet. He took me for all I was and all I brought with me, which was my past and a 1 1/2-year-old. We fell in love, moved in together in a rental, started looking for a house to buy, then got engaged. We then found the perfect deal, and had our house built.

Personal pic of our house! (Before it was completely done)

And, as you know, we are planning our wedding for September 2010. Things may not have happened in the order that is ideal to most, but things did happen. Neither of us would change anything either. I love my son, I love MS. MS loves me, MS loves my son. Our life is perfect, and we are proud of our family and where we are.

The 2 loves of my life

Have things gone planned for you? Do people make comments about how you are going about your life?